When Will Too Much Ever Be Enough…
Marissa is about a month into school and this morning while looking for something to wear, she tells me that she needs to go to shopping to buy some new clothes. I stop… think in my confused state and say, Marissa. What is it you don’t have? She continues on to tell me she has already worn all the clothes she got for the school year once and ” it’s not her style” to wear them again.
As the morning goes on, I was going through her desk to find a pencil to sign her homework slip and was digging through the 50 packs of diffrently packaged markers, colored pencils, crayons, and more to finally find 10 packs of pencils… that need to be sharpened.
We are running out the door almost late because Marissa cannot decide between her 4 pairs of pink shoes and which will go with todays outfit the best….
Today I leave the house so frustrated with the excess! All the clothes that are not appreciated. The extra markers that are not being used and the shoes that are making me late…. In my Anger I have decided on the way to school that this is over…We are going through things! Getting rid of things! Not buying new things… but then realize…What about me…
I am the cause of my own frustration. 1- I have supplied her with all of this which I am so upset by- 2- Her attitude of needing more and more surely didn’t develop on her own… and lastly 3- I am SO MUCH WORSE…..
And here we are again today discussing the… my makeup. The overwhelming, un needed, unloved- largely untouched, ginormous, ridiculous makeup collection that I have sitting in the bathroom/ hall closet. How can I say a word to her with this crazy obsession that I have?
Today, I sit her truly tired of the excess in my life. I was in church a few weeks back and the Pastor was speaking something about how we are ruined by choices. How we can’t even make decisions any longer because of the amount of choices we have. Its to stressful…. ITS TOO MUCH….. This morning I am yearning for simplicity.
This isn’t just related to makeup. This applies to so many other areas in my life. Clothes, Shoes, handbags and everything else that I feel a need for more… I can try and say I will get rid of some things… Or I can say I will stop buying things… But Will I?
So I ask, When will TOO MUCH ever be enough?
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Sara
I am blogging from San Francisco, CA. I love Makeup, Skincare and Beauty in general. I am Nutrition obsessed and love movies and reality television when I find the time! Want to know more? Click on the About Me tab at the top!! Xoxo! Sara
This is so true! We have so many choices. I remember back when I started wearing makeup, I only had one eyeshadow quad and that's it. Life was so easy!
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Guilty as charged myself….!
Wish I could say that at some point it will be enough, not sure though…
xx
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awwww… well im exactly the same way hun. I look at my makeup stache and half of it is unused… i bought them because i like the feeling that i own one, not cuz i will use them (i mean of course, im not gona buy something i wont use but i know i cant use them soo often) I don't have money right now.. i am going thru a financial crisis along with my family… yet i still insist i want to buy this or that and whenever i get some money from my parents instead of saving up, i used them for myself. i do feel this way most of the time, but to "counteract" that guilty feeling, i tell myself "well its just money, you use em, you earn it. and life is too short to not to use money. what if you been saving for something then die the next day? can u bring that money with you in the afterlife? no.." I know you can say the same thing for material things "can you bring all the purses, your money, your house when yo go to your grave" well no of course, but at least during ur lifetime u were able to enjoy having them at least. i guess its enough if you are soo consume about getting all these things that you dont even buy the necessities anymore, such as food, toiletries, clothes etc. if you can buy those items still and have no problem financially then i guess thats ok. but if u just put all the money to cars and never give your daughter money or food for school, then thats a problem. im sure we all feel this way, and its ok to buy things more than what you suppose once in awhile of course. but like i said if it gets to that point u miss the basic needs, then maybe we should take a step back and look at what we really need in life.
oops…i just typed a novel haha. Sorry sara.. did you receive my email? just wondering.. i hope you did i might have typed the wrong email address. i hope you'll have a great weekend hun! xoxo
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Hi Sara! My mom and I had the same problem before! We had a gallery of new and untouched clothes, shoes and makeup! We used to buy and buy and buy stuff we don't need. Nothing became appreciated. My mom came up with a rule when shopping. We can only buy stuff that we NEED and stuff that we REALLY REALLY LOVE. We also got a shopping calendar wherein we write down what we have shopped for that day to keep track of our expenses. This really helped simplify our life.
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You have to watch that type of stuff with kids and fix it before they get older. You wouldn't want her to grow up thinking she needs to be spoiled rotten.
I think I know my limit when it comes to things. If I want to buy something new, I'm going to get rid of some things as well.
I'm itching to get shopping right now, lol but I know I better wait and just save up.
Once I get a new job IT'S ON!!!!
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Just my little advice from own experience (I guess you probably know already): give your daughter 2 choices of clothes and shoes and she can pick from there. Put away part of the stash until she has some good wear out of the rest.
I wouldn't have any advice for the makeup matter, cause we are all the same in that aspect
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i love this post as i totally relate. i've been simplifying things too. before i would hold on to everything for in the just in cases situations, or what ifs… i began to feel like a bag lady… heavy purse, things that can't go in my purse but i NEED to carry around go in an extra bag on and on and on. it was physically taking a toll and it represented the way i let things fester in my mind etc.
with makeup, i try to remember: the color of the rainbow never changes, it's just packaged differently.
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I used to be like this. Everything I wanted, thought I needed or thought that I might want, I bought. After a while I ran out of space, so I cleaned out every thing I had not worn in a year or more. Tired on everything that was left and donated all of the items i decided not to keep. I did the same thing with make up and hair products. I also adopted a one in one out policy. I can buy the shoes, top, skirt, eyeliner that I completely love and must have right now. But when I get it home its equivalent has to go. This makes me think a lot harder before buying. I don't always follow the rule but I try really hard to stick to it.
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That is true. I too get frustrated with myself with always wanting more when I have enough and whatever I need. I think it is the society and the general way we are living now that leads us wanting more and more. The recent typhoon that hit our country had left so many people devastated. A lot of them lost their homes, clothes, furnitures, cars and even family members. It really was tragic. But I saw one good thing about it. I learned that there is more to life than the things I treasure (material things) that in the end, life and the relationships we have with other people are far more important. I am now trying to overhaul my lfe and how I go about it
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