Your Advice Is NOT Needed…
November 2nd, 2009 | 
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I feel lately I have been so frustrated with all the advice I have been offered in many aspects of life. I have always been a firm believer in, “Dont speak on what you dont know” so the opposite of that would be… If you are confident in talking about something then share… I guess its common sense to me.
I dont let you cut my hair If I dont like the way your hair looks…. I cant listen to dieting tips from someone who doesnt use the tools themselves. If I need questions answered I instead look toward a trusted resource that I feel confident in having the answer to my questions.
Do you ever feel this way? Do you ever feel that the advice/ tips that you receive are unwelcomed. What determines that? The source…. or the tips themselves?
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omg you read my mind sara! i have this friend i love her to death but she would constantly tell me my boyfriend is no good and i could get better even though my boyfriend provides for me everything i want and need. It's funny because her boyfriend cheats on her and it seems like every other day shes complaining about a new girl he slept with. ahh. friends and their advice lol
Heck yes I feel this way!! Almost daily. Someone is always interjecting their opinion somewhere. I do think that it is meant to be helpful, but it still bugs.
Hope you are well. <3 u!!
I TOTALLY agree. Some people just feel obliged to make `suggestions` when you don`t ask for them. gaaahh I can`t stand people who act like they know it all .. . Its one thing to be intelligent or an expert in a certain area, but I`m talking about the morons who falsely believe that they know EVERYTHING about EVERYTHING. Also when someone insists that some subjective is better for YOU. Example: why are you drinking Gordons gin, Tanguay is sooo much better and cooler.. . . . ummmmmm let me be the judge of that!! ha ha ha Sorry for the rant but I can def. relate girl! Thanks for the post.
XXOO
Kasia
http://cassandrakk.blogspot.com/
I hear ya! I've found I often get comments from people after I do a post about relationships. Everyone has their two cents to put in about what I've written and what parts of it they disagree with and why…. usually because they feel like I've incriminated them in some way in connection with their own relationships. However, I don't ever remember claiming to be Dr. Phil. These are my opinions based on my live experiences and observations of others. End of story! (Can you tell I've thought of this BEFORE you even posted this?! lol)
oh no! tell who-ever so shut their mouths! lol don't feel bad, this happens to everyone, i actually had a friend call me up once, tell me this dramatic story (clearly asking for help) and in return i said "i'm sorry i cant even offer you any advice" and she replies with "i'm not asking for your advice! i just wanted to talk" I was so shocked i was actually speechless! i am NEVER speechless!
i guess you don't want to be one of those people either, take it with a grain of salt. smile and nod, walk away and think horrible thoughts about that person hehe
yeah i know !
and sometimes i was like,who the hell u think u are to tell me what to do?look at yourself,do u think i would take ur advice?
damnn im so cruel.lol
I totally feel the same sometimes. I feel sometimes some people tell me things that just makes me feel "do you even know what you are talking about?" But i guess may be that person really believes in that and really think what they are saying are correct.
http://sparklemidori.blogspot.com
Oh, yeeeessssssss. I hate it when im going thru school "blues" people just kept saying "you will be fine", "you will do just ok", "you will pass this" when they don't know what on earth im going thru. If I can't give an advice I am very truthful about it, i say to that person "Im sorry what you goin thru right now. I wish I could help you with that but if you need someone to listen to il be here" simple as that. Im sick of people telling me everything will be ok hang in they haven't been in my situation. Im sorry you go thru that. Everyone does hun.
Just dont let these affect you. You know better than anyone else, so if they just gave u an advice out of nowhere just ignore it. I hope you feel much better! xoxo
i agree! what really annoys me is when I just wanna rant and then they try to suggest something and when I say no I know that will not work, they get annoyed that I didnt take their advice. well I never asked for advice in the first place!
Why cant someone rant without other people thinking they want a solution? some people just wanna rant b/c it makes em feel better! most of the time I know what the possible solutions are anyway, I just like ranting sometimes to blow off steam lol
Sara I know that feeling all too well! And all you want to do is tell them to shut up! grrr
xo
Definitely the source, I hate 'accidentally' eaves-dropping on fresh-faced girls with un-groomed eyebrows telling their friends how to put on makeup and that a little powder and concealer looks good on anyone. They make it sound easy when they haven't tried it themselves?
To me, it's not so much of how the advice is but how the person said it. And yes, I do not need people to tell me I'm fat/short/plain/whatever. I already know that and work on improving myself. I think if people look at themselves in the mirror before throwing advice at others to make themselves feel better is a good thing to do.
Some people always have to have something to say…it's called Attention Seeking….I try not to give them the attention they are after and put on my IGNORE face
I definitely feel this way some times… Especially if it's an older family member, it frustrates me. I know they mean well, but it still bothers me, and even embarrasses me!
I just have to remind myself it's because they care.
I work where all the people that come in are generally older and when I tell them I'm looking for a better job they make it seem as though it's easy and I'm just slacking…
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